One of the first thing God challenged me with after I rededicated my life to Christ was this.
"Don't keep any secret. You must live a life of transparency. For your life depends upon it."
It was difficult to receive that from God, especially to live it out at first. For at that point, I've learned to live most of my life in secrecy. My childhood had taught me two things. You never put family secrets in the streets, no matter what. And no one life is more important than keeping family secrets. Look around the world. Isn't this a fact of life for EVERY family in the world? Inside and outside the Church. And look where it has led us. Look at the brokenness of so many families. The brokenness of so many adults that in turn are creating more broken families. No one is immune.
And the only real cure is the advice God spoke to me when I rededicated my life to him - NO SECRETS. LIVE A LIFE OF TRANSPARENCY. NO MATTER WHAT OR WHO YOU MAY LOSE IN THE PROCESS. And don't tie yourself to people who want to keep secrets.
Am I saying all secrets are bad? NOPE. But y'all know what kinds of secrets I'm talking about.
Am I saying you should share everything? NOPE! The only person's that can write an accurate book about me, is God, my best friend Felicia, my two children and my granddaughter Talia, if she could read and write. Because they see me from every aspect a person can see a person. All others can only write with distorted lenses due to their lack of wisdom and insight into my personal life and character. They could only write about 10 percent of my life story. The things God either asks or tells me to share publicly.
I don't share the things I do to get likes, to build a fan base, to be liked (in fact, most things I say causes me to be hated), to get back at someone, to be vindictive, etc. I have a divine conviction and desire to change the dysfunction that is rooted in our family cultural that carries a spare that contains a poisonous venom on it's tip called secrets. Secrets comes in the dark as well as in the light to kill, steal and destroy each one of us individually, which leads to the destruction of our family unit.
Now, I may lose every one of my family members to fulfill the things I know what God has called me to do. (Luke 12:51-53; 48). But, when I know from personal experience what secrets has done to me and how it has torn up my childhood family and seen its continue effects into the next generation and possibly the following, I will be foolish to continue the vicious cycle through my lineage of children. Someone has to stand up and stop the madness. And for some reason God has chosen me.
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Transparency is difficult for most. I get it. You don't want most people knowing your business because most will not take care of your content properly. But keeping unhealthy secrets is just as dangerous.
One of the first thing God challenged me with after I rededicated my life to Christ was this.
"Don't keep any secret. You must live a life of transparency. For your life depends upon it."
It was difficult to receive that from God, especially to live it out at first. For at that point, I've learned to live most of my life in secrecy. My childhood had taught me two things. You never put family secrets in the streets, no matter what. And no one life is more important than keeping family secrets. Look around the world. Isn't this a fact of life for EVERY family in the world? Inside and outside the Church. And look where it has led us. Look at the brokenness of so many families. The brokenness of so many adults that in turn are creating more broken families. No one is immune.
And the only real cure is the advice God spoke to me when I rededicated my life to him - NO SECRETS. LIVE A LIFE OF TRANSPARENCY. NO MATTER WHAT OR WHO YOU MAY LOSE IN THE PROCESS. And don't tie yourself to people who want to keep secrets.
Am I saying all secrets are bad? NOPE. But y'all know what kinds of secrets I'm talking about.
Am I saying you should share everything? NOPE! The only person's that can write an accurate book about me, is God, my best friend Felicia, my two children and my granddaughter Talia, if she could read and write. Because they see me from every aspect a person can see a person. All others can only write with distorted lenses due to their lack of wisdom and insight into my personal life and character. They could only write about 10 percent of my life story. The things God either asks or tells me to share publicly.
I don't share the things I do to get likes, to build a fan base, to be liked (in fact, most things I say causes me to be hated), to get back at someone, to be vindictive, etc. I have a divine conviction and desire to change the dysfunction that is rooted in our family cultural that carries a spare that contains a poisonous venom on it's tip called secrets. Secrets comes in the dark as well as in the light to kill, steal and destroy each one of us individually, which leads to the destruction of our family unit.
Now, I may lose every one of my family members to fulfill the things I know what God has called me to do. (Luke 12:51-53; 48). But, when I know from personal experience what secrets has done to me and how it has torn up my childhood family and seen its continue effects into the next generation and possibly the following, I will be foolish to continue the vicious cycle through my lineage of children. Someone has to stand up and stop the madness. And for some reason God has chosen me.
